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Tips on Coping With Loss

It feels like the last couple of weeks of each year, there is more news about someone passing away. Whether they are a well-known celebrity or a close friend or family member. I thought the timing for this article might help some of us right now that have lost a loved one recently. Or for those that lost a loved one this year, and this was your first holiday season without them physically present.

Tips on Coping with Loss: Advice from 'Death Experts'

Losing a loved one is an overwhelming experience. This tragic event unfortunately affects all of us at one time or another, but some people have more exposure to grief and loss due to the nature of their work. Hospice caregivers, healthcare professionals, and funeral directors often get “on the job” training on how to deal with death and dying – “death experts” some might say. As a result, they often possess useful insights on how to cope with loss based on their intimate knowledge of end-of-life events.

Hospice Caregivers

Hospice care provides physical, emotional, and spiritual support to terminally-ill patients in their final phase of life. Hospice caregivers are a special breed of people - they offer essential medical care to patients with end-stage disease and counsel families facing the impending loss of their loved one, yet still maintain a high level of professionalism in the wake of sadness and grief.

Seeing death on a daily basis is not easy, but hospice personnel remain fully committed to their work. Those who work in hospice don’t deny the fact that patients will die, and recommend that family members need to accept death honestly. Dr. Kevin Dieter, an associate medical director at Hospice of the Western Reserve, says hospice care has taught him the importance of not holding grudges. “At the end of life, there’s not a lot of fixing you can do,” Dieter says. To cope with loss, hospice workers encourage family members to make peace with loved ones while they still can, find healthy ways to process grief, and seek joy in the moments of everyday life.

Healthcare Professionals

Like hospice, death is inevitable in the field of medicine. Doctors, nurses, and other healthcare professionals deal with the challenges of grief and loss regularly, and many receive training on how to manage the sadness that comes with losing patients despite their best efforts.

Healthcare workers understand that trying to rationalize grief is unrealistic, and it’s perfectly okay to feel angry, confused, disappointed, or depressed. Whatever emotions one feels after a death are acceptable and people should be allowed to grieve in their own time and in their own way. Nurses find that talking about loss with other co-workers can help them process their feelings more effectively while continuing to provide care to patients. Doctors also say they cope with loss by openly sharing their experiences with other doctors and making use of counseling services to deal with negative emotions from grief.

Funeral Directors

Offering sympathy and support to bereaved families is a funeral director’s way of life. Many funeral professionals are honored to be called upon to provide assistance during a time of need and despair. Because they deal with death every day, funeral directors are acutely familiar with the characteristics of grief and loss. They often advise family members not to repress their feelings – crying, or not crying, is okay. Sometimes family members shed tears of joy when they gather to celebrate the life of the deceased person by sharing happy memories and personal stories.

Funeral professionals also stress that grief is a journey – take it one day at a time and don’t let others pressure you into “moving on.” After the funeral is over, try to avoid making big decisions as you come to terms with your loss. Funeral directors also encourage bereaved people to reach out to other family members and close friends who are also mourning, and recommend professional therapy for those who feel overcome with grief. It’s always better to ask for help than resort to self-medication to “numb” the pain.  

Article Submitted by: Tim and Alison Dinan, Owners

Cook Family Funeral Home, Cremation Service, and Hillcrest Cemetery


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