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Wish List for Your Loved Ones from You

  • Writer: marycoupland5
    marycoupland5
  • 4 hours ago
  • 3 min read

With my mum having suffered from Alzheimer’s there’s a chance myself or one of my sisters will get dementia, and if that’s the case I’d like my family to hang this Wish List up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.


Every time you enter the room announce yourself, say my name and your name...."Mum, it's me Kyra."


NEVER ask- Do you know who I am??? That causes anxiety.


These are Words to Live By……


1. If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality.


2. If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.


3. If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.


4. If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.


5. If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.


6. If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.


7. If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am.


8. If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.


9. If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.


10. If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me.


11. If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated.


12. If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.


13. If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.


14. If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.


15. If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.


16. If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.


17. If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.


18. If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.


19. If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.


20. If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.


21. If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.


Please feel free to share this with others in Honor of someone you know or knew who has or is fighting Dementia/Alzheimer’s.



 
 
 

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